If I hear one more story about a seemingly normal couple where she ends up being beaten black and blue and just 'taking' it because of the black star on one's reputation, then I don't know. Are we breeding a generation of miscreants, egotistical maniacs and utterly selfish sons?
Why do seemingly normal guys from supposedly good homes feel the need to assert themselves on the women they supposedly love. Where are we going wrong? Is there something 'missing' from the building of these boys that makes them faulty men? I have been blessed to be raised by two people who although imperfect, love each other very much. I have a brother, and I imagine that the way he treats his sisters and mother is a good indication of how he will treat the lady he decides to marry.... if that day ever comes (he is very, how do I say this...short attention span). I am not of the mind that it is absolutely necessary for a child to be in a two parent family to turn out ok. Some of the most messed up people I have ever met, were raised by two parents. However, children are all about learned behavior .. these damaged boys must have learned that they had to assert themselves physically or verbally from someone, whether at home, or with extended family or television or the internet ....
I am mentioning all this because my ex is supposedly in anger management. I have met his family and granted they were on their best behavior .. but I couldn't really suss what the dynamic was with his parents. His father seemed quiet but I am told could blow up and be quite harsh verbally, whilst his mother although a 'saint', can be quite fierce. Everyone who knows how ugly his messages to me became when we broke up has warned me fairly vehemently not to consider getting back together with him. They are concerned that I have Stockholm syndrome, that I enjoy the berating. I must admit that I have had difficulty stopping talking to him. 75 percent of me knows that we can not get back together, and the other bit thinks he can change. I must be a foolish girl, and if I make the mistake of getting back together with him, they will all say... 'I told you so'. I could not bare that. Besides, who wants to be with someone who says 'Am home' instead of 'I am home' anyway?
